(Last modified on March 29th, 2020)
For people considering man caves—either as potential builders or curious friends—a lot of misconceptions float around man caves that skew their opinion in a misleading direction. I already talked about the myths of man caves, so let’s take a look at some things which ring true. This list of the good, the bad, and the ugly goes over the reality of man caves and why you want one—or, why you need to avoid them! Of course, this all varies from person to person based on their own interests and personality types, but in general, this article covers everything you need to know about man caves: the good, the bad, and the ugly. Let’s begin!
First of all, man caves serve a wonderful function for all men who create one for themselves. Its primary purpose is to create a secluded man sanctuary (or ‘mantuary’) that relieves stress and provides uninterrupted relaxation. By having a space all their own—not shared with anyone else—it gives men something extra to feel pride about in their lives. It highlights their achievements, their desires, their interests, and provides every form of entertainment the man could want. Really, why wouldn’t you want a man cave? Even women build their own she-sheds!
Speaking of sheds, they also help fill underutilized space in your home or yard, such as attics, basements, or ‘guest’ rooms that end up as storage rooms. Setting up a man cave shed might take work, but it makes the yard look awesome, improves the value of the house, and provides a safe distance from a few common worries in life. Mostly chores, but it’s still worth it. I wrote a whole post on working with your own man cave shed, so check it out!
Depending on who you ask, these bad things could represent something spectacular. However, I want to go over them anyways so everyone knows the risks of a man cave. Saying it like that sounds dramatic—don’t worry, these risks are more of an inconvenience than anything else. First of all, lots of men out there have no experience with interior design, so it will take extra work for them to build something that looks spectacular. In the meantime, it will look more like a living room than a true man cave. If you find yourself or someone else in this situation, browse this blog to find a few different solutions and guides for that sort of thing.
Second, clutter usually accumulates in man caves. Lots of a dude’s stuff fits nowhere else in the house, so all of your trinkets and doodads end up stuffed somewhere in your cave. Without supervision, it quickly becomes more of a hoard. Plus, since the room belongs to a man and not his spouse, it usually goes uncleaned. Avoid building a man cave if you aren’t responsible about cleaning, because making someone else deal with your mess is just unfair and hardly gentlemanly.
This only applies to a few men with some bad personalities, but it truly accounts for the ugliest part of a man cave, and the biggest risk in its construction. Though rare, some men feel that they have no place in the world. They dislike hanging out with others, dealing with family life, thinking of work, doing chores, and generally being a productive human being. I don’t want to call them lazy—maybe non-confrontational is the best word. These men lock themselves in their man caves any chance they get, completely escaping and neglecting the important things in life. Truly, this is the ugly part about man caves, and something you should absolutely avoid. Manage your time wisely!
To finish things off, I want to mention that this all changes depending on the individual. The ugly part of a man cave deals with a personality issue, while the bad part of man caves only happens with neglect or lack of effort. The good vastly outweighs the bad and the ugly, especially considering how rare those two features really show up in man caves. Certainly, the bad is tolerable to most men anyways. Ultimately, the man cave provides a sanctuary for men and a place to relax all on our own. This little bit of solace is worth all the effort in the world!